Is financial issue and in-laws a major problem in a relationship and will make people attitude change? 

Well, it all depends how people see it and define it right? But for me, these two are a major issues especially when two of them meet each other in a wrong timing (I meant the issues not the couple).

People always say that marriage is a matter between two people and it is not concern other people. People also say that you are marry to your partner and not his/her family. If that so, why I am facing this issue now?

When the in-laws issue is still being hot, then comes along the financial issue to stir and add fire on top of the heat oil. When come to financial issue, I always ask myself, "Am I not good enough and useless?" Why I asks myself such question? 

First, I have a degree but my career is not reaching supervisory or managerial level whereas people and friends around me is reaching that level or at least earning higher number of salary. So, am I in a wrong career path or I just do not have the ability to reach higher and get higher pay? I really do not know.

Second, am I spending too much? I really do not know what to write as all the things that we spent on is necessaries for survival. Even before I spent on a minor item, I will survey around for days before deciding to buy and sometimes I just totally forget about it. There are few times I really have that very strong urge to buy the item I wanted but I refrain and control myself by thinking of the consequences. Even sometimes I control my urge by window shopping many times till my urge for buying gone just by looking at the item many times like I have owned it.

So, why am I so in debts and poor? Why? Why? Why? And why you want to still treat me like this? Why things cannot be solve by talking out aloud? You feel the same and so do I!